Real Life ” I Do”! Rachael’s Scrap Book Proposal

Continuing our proposal inspiration, we asked real-life bride to be Rachael how she popped the question to her intended, Neil… She had to get creative because lockdown scuppered the original plans, but we think this is beautiful! This is what she said…

THE SCRAPBOOK PROPOSAL

I had already decided in December 2019 that I was going to propose to my partner. I knew he wanted to get married, as did I, but was being a bit slow about proposing. He’s not really a jewellery or big spontaneous gesture kind of person, so flash mobs, public proposals and engagement rings were out of the question.

We’ve always referred to each other as adventuring buddies both think Up! is romantic (the first bit) and I like crafts. So I decided to make him a scrap book to propose with. We have an in joke, and 15a means ‘I love you’. So clearly sections of the scrap book needed to be numbered up to 15b being ‘marry me’. I set about the book in January 2020, including lots of tickets, photos, napkins, cards, anything to spark a joyous memory.

But when to propose? On a nice weekend away was obvious. We had two suitable trips planned, the last weekend in February and then in May. We’ll, there was no way I was proposing on the only day in 4 years where women are traditionally allowed to (29th Feb), so May it was. Then covid, ill health, furlough and all sorts of things hit. Needless to say the trip in May did not happen. But I couldn’t wait for all this to be over as it dragged in into August with no end in sight. So, with the scrap book ready, I ordered a wonderful set of cheeses from our local cheesemonger, as it was something special. I tidied the dining room (we rarely eat in there, so it felt like being somewhere other than the house we hadn’t left in 4 months) and set it up to look like a Parisian restaurant (our last holiday was Paris) with Moulin Rouge on the lap top (a film we both adore and have amazing memories of the Secret Cinema version). We ate. We drank. I gave him the book and got very nervous! He beamed looking through all of the sections and memories and when he got to 15b, grinned at me, said yes, gave me a kiss, and ran off!

He returned with a little box with a ring and asked me the same question! He had been planning to propose on the May trip too! Of course I said yes! We then video called parents and announced on social media. I was so pleased that it managed to all feel magical despite being at home. It was a very ‘us’ proposal.”

I Love the way Rachael proposed to Neil – thanks so much to her for sharing this fabulous and inspiring proposal! It really sums up the story of their life together so far… They get married in October 2020 ❤

All pics by Rachael Eyre

Proposal Ideas Pt 2

If you are looking for a different way to pop the question on St Valentine’s Day, here are a few more ideas…

GIVE THEM THE KEY… TO YOUR HEART.

Well, it might sound a bit obvious, but it’s fun, right? And these days, asking for permission and finding a formal moment to “do it” all sounds a bit serious, doesn’t it? So why not have a bit of fun? A key that fits a locked box, which has a ring inside is a really cute way to propose… But if you want to make it even more special, why not put inside some of your favourite photos from your story so far – moments that have been magical. If you are like me, you may have kept tickets or “souvenirs” from things you did together… why not pop them inside the box as well! If you are poetic, why not include a poem, or some lyrics to your favourite song?

MATRYOSHKA!

Are you crafty? Do you love folklore? Then why not hide the question inside a set of Russian nesting dolls? You can get some really cool ones around now, based on any theme, and I’m told that a certain UK hobby shop even does ones you can paint yourself – so you can make your own mini Matryoshkas based on yourselves!

LOVE BY THE BOOK…

Photo-books are really easy to create these days. Most of the major printing sites make them and you can caption each page yourself, so why not give your loved one your love story so far? Don’t be put off by the thought of it being a difficult thing to create as most sites have templates and you just click on the photo upload area and choose your pics. Don’t forget to pop the question in the book! and it is noce to leave a “to be continued…” page to make it clear that that isn’t the end of the story!

If photo uploads aren’t your thing, you could do a really low-key proposal, simply by putting the ring in a book and asking your intended to pass you the book. This is a nice idea as it’s quite relaxed and if you choose your moment correctly it will be unexpected and delightful!

BY VIDEO

These days, everyone seems to be doing things by video, so why not propose… but the key thing here is to make it special, and not some quick recorded message sent to their inbox without a thought, because you are scared to ask in person! This is not the alternative of being scared to ask in person! Some ideas for you include choosing your background – you want to make it look like you’ve put some special thoughts into it. you can make a physical background by decorating a wall or some curtains with love hearts, or even letters… Talking to camera works – make sure you look down the lens, though, so your loved one feels like you are talking directly to them, and ensure you are nicely lit – a light in front that illuminates your face is best, as back lit will cause shadows. If you want to make it humorous you could lip sync to a song and there are editing packages that are really easy to use now, so if you wanted to play different characters, wear different outfits, or incorporate clips from friends, then you can. How you choose to send it is up to you, but unless you are really confident of the answer, and sure your intended wont hit the roof because everyone has seen this first, it’s probably not the best idea to put it up publicly on social media or youtube. And choose your moment to send it! Make sure it hits their inbox at a special moment…

More proposal hints and tips coming tomorrow!

Will You?

Yes, we all know it’s a cliche and only to be expected on St Valentine’s Day – but so what? If you want to pop the question, then why not?

Any day is a good day for love! Here are a few ideas to make it a bit different…

TREASURE HUNT

We’ve all been on those treasure hunts, where clues lead to other clues and the winner gets, well? What? I don’t think I can remember winning any actual treasure… However, now is your chance to change all that, where the winner (or should I say, only contestant) gets to win your heart and a sparkler to put on their finger.

Granted, during lockdown, this might be a bit more difficult as we’re not allowed to go anywhere, which means you will have to be a bit more creative when you lay down your clues around your house and/or garden… and also, choosing the time of day might make it feel more special – eg, doing it after the sun has gone down by candlelight… Your clues could be simple post it notes cut into the shape of a heart and each clue leads your intended to a different, but special location – perhaps one clue could lead to an unforgettable photograph, and the next lead to the kitchen, where there is a treat (like your last rollo?) or to their favourite dish or ingredient, the next to the wardrobe and to an item of clothing or shoes they were wearing when you first met? You get the idea, make your clues part of your story together and it will be a fun and memorable proposal.

If you want to wait until lockdown is over for your love adventure, then you can make an even bigger treasure hunt that leads to special places, such as the place where you first kissed, somewhere you have your first date, etc.

In both cases, just make sure you keep the treasure on your person as you really don’t want the ring falling into the wrong hands… and make the last clue one that leads to your heart, so you have the chance to propose! If you want to make that more fun, you could hide and they have to find you for the treasure!

and don’t forget, you don’t have to make it a paper trail! you can go low-tech and do it on text messages, or by sending part of a picture of where the next clue is, so they have to guess the whole picture. When they’ve found the place, why not attach the story to the item – eg, “These were the shoes you were wearing when we first met”? This shows you have thought about the details of your relationship and have taken notice!

More ideas coming tomorrow!

Why the heart?

As St Valentines Day approaches, I thought we would have a look at what is it, and why we use the symbol of a heart as the universal sign of love…

The heart symbol has absolutely no relation to the heart we have in our bodies, aside from the fact that people in historical times thought that the heart was at the centre of the body, and that it drove our feelings. The heart shape itself has its origins in foliage, fruit and seeds. In ancient Greece, they loved this massive fennel-type plant called silphium. It was the wonder ingredient of its time, the greeks and Romans loved it so much that they consumed it to extinction. Not only could it be used to flavour foods, it was also medicine and used for birth control and its seeds were heart-shaped. Others believe that the fig leaves used to cover the modesty of Adam and Eve were the origins of the heart shape (as are ivy leaves…). Later, in the 13th Century (Tom, that’s for you) a famous French manuscript, ‘Roman de la Poire’ shows a pair being handed to a lover in a title page illumination. Nothing whatsoever to do with a heart – but the shape is similar and the pear represents love and fertility in many different cultures.

It also has its origins in the naive anatomy drawings that started to come out in the middle ages. The artist would base their drawings on the written descriptions of Galen and Aristotle without actually basing it on the real thing!